Name Aurora Nilsson | ||
Aurora Nilsson, also known as Rora Asim Khan (Västerhaninge 1 January 1894 - Södertälje 1972), was a Swedish writer who became known for her autobiographical novel about her experiences in Afghanistan during her marriage to an Afghan diplomat, Asim Khan, in the 1920s. A novel is based upon her story, as her work gives a valuable insight in the life of a harem in 1920s Afghanistan. Her divorce (1927) was at the time unique in Afghanistan. This memoir, tellingly entitled Escape from Harem, is one of the first written by a Western woman married to a Muslim man.
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Marriage
In 1925, Aurora Nilsson was studying art in Berlin; the Golden Twenties was a vibrant period in the history of the city. There she met and married Asim Khan, the son of a former Afghan minister of government, who was studying technique at the expense of the Afghan government. The Afghan embassy acknowledged the marriage after Nilsson signed a statement that she would accept Afghan customs and, some time in the future, convert to Islam. She never did convert, however.
The newly married couple travelled to Afghanistan in 1926. During the journey, Khan changed, according to Nilsson, from a modern person to a man more and more aware of the Afghan customs the closer they came to his homeland. En route he abused her twice. In Kabul, Nilsson was severely shocked about her new living conditions and was not able to adjust herself to them: she was forced to wear a veil (hijab) and was not allowed to leave the house except with her husband's permission, nor look out of the windows, or to talk when she visited a shop (purdah). She also discovered that her husband had a servant who was in fact his second wife (see Marriage in Islam). She aroused a lot of attention.
Her husband was not given any position, because she had not converted. He therefore gave her permission to visit the government, the royal court, and women in different positions to try to get him a position. In her book, she describes the people, customs and events of contemporary Afghanistan. With the help of Khan's aunt, who was a lady-in-waiting to the queen, she visited the royal court in Paghman and Darullaman, and includes descriptions in her book of queen consort Soraya Tarzi, a Syrian-educated moderniser, and the mother of the king, whose name she spells as Ollja Hassrat. With their encouragement, she talked a lot about European customs. She befriended the king's mother, whom she describes as influential and dominant, demonstrated dance and gymnastics for her and acted as her photographer. She failed to acquire a position for Khan, who threatened to kill or to sell her. According to Nilsson, a German woman, the widow of an afridi, Abdullah Khan, had fled to the city with her children from her late husband's successor, was sold at public auction and bought free by the German embassy for 7 000 marks.
In 1927, Nilsson managed to be granted a divorce with the support of the German embassy. The divorce was unique, as it was not the custom for a woman to divorce a man. (See Divorce in Islam.)The German embassy helped her to get a room in a hotel while she waited for money from Sweden to leave the country. Her divorce created a scandal in Kabul, and she was harassed, including by the officials she visited for help. The officials denied her divorce on the grounds that she was a Muslim, claimed she needed an Afghan passport to leave the country, and offered her money to return to her former husband. As she arrives at the border, she was again stopped with an offer of money if she returned to marriage. She declined with the words: "No, I do not need any money! I need nothing from Afghanistan! Only my freedom!"
Aftermath
After her divorce, Aurora Nilsson returned to Sweden, where she published a book about her experiences (1928). In 1930, Nilsson married ice-hockey player Carl Abrahamsson.
The divorce made her ex-husband "lose face" in Afghan society, and prevented him from gaining any political post. He assassinated three officials at the British embassy and in 1933 was executed. He was motivated by the desire to create conflict between the pro-British king, Mohammed Nadir Shah, and Great Britain and bring about the fall of Nadir and the reinstallement of the deposed king Amanullah Khan. His act is considered to have contributed to the deposition of king Nadir later the same year.
Work
In culture
Aurora Nilsson was the model for the character in the Swedish novel Gryningsflickan (The Girl of the Dawn) by Swedish writer Tomas Löfström (1986), which was rewarded with the prize "Novel of the Year" by Bra Böcker in 1986.