Nationality American Occupation Writer | Name John Stoltenberg Role Author | |
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Born 1944 (age 70–71) California, United States Books Refusing to be a Man: Essays on Sex and Justice Similar People Andrea Dworkin, Robin Morgan, Audre Lorde, Judith Butler, Cerridwen Fallingstar |
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John Stoltenberg (born 1944) is an U.S. radical feminist activist, scholar, author, and magazine editor. He is the former managing editor of AARP The Magazine, a bimonthly publication of the United States-based advocacy group AARP, a position he held from 2004 until 2012.
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Stoltenberg was life partner to Andrea Dworkin for thirty-one years (eventually marrying), although he considers himself gay. He is a lapsed Lutheran, of German and Norwegian descent.

Career
Stoltenberg holds a degree in fine arts and a Master of Divinity from Union Theological Seminary. He is well known as a radical feminist activist and author. He has written a series of books and articles criticizing traditional concepts of manhood or maleness, such as Refusing to Be a Man: Essays on Sex and Justice, Why I Stopped Trying to be a Real Man, and The End of Manhood: A Book for Men of Conscience.
Stoltenberg created "The Pose Workshop," which entailed men adopting the poses that women strike in pornographic shots (intended partly for men attending Christian retreats), a version of which was broadcast on BBC television.
He was Andrea Dworkin's life partner for thirty-one years. They began living together in 1974; in 1998 they married (see Andrea Dworkin's relationship with John Stoltenberg).
Stoltenberg is a founder of the group Men Can Stop Rape and developed the group's 'My Strength' campaign which aims to educate young men on sexual relationships, consent and rape. He also creative director of the group's "My Duty" sexual-assault-prevention media campaign, which is licensed to the United States Department of Defense's Sexual Assault Prevention and Response Office.
Stoltenberg is credited with the quote: "Pornography tells lies about women. But pornography tells the truth about men."
Stoltenberg has described how, as a feminist male, he has had to reevaluate and even discontinue relationships with some of his male friends.