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Name
  
Dave Pelzer

Role
  
Author


Nationality
  
Siblings
  
Richard B. Pelzer

Dave Pelzer with a tight-lipped smile while wearing eyeglasses and blue long sleeve under a red necktie and black coat with American flag lapel pin

Born
  
December 29, 1960 (age 63) Daly City, California (
1960-12-29
)

Occupation
  
Autobiographer, motivational speaker

Notable works
  
A Child Called "It", Help Yourself

Parents
  
Stephen Joseph Pelzer, Catherine Pelzer

Books
  
A Child Called "It", The Lost Boy, A Man Named Dave, The Privilege of Youth, My Story

Similar
  
David Bach (author), Samm Sinclair Baker, Richard Bandler

Dave pelzer biography


David James "Dave" Pelzer (born December 29, 1960 in San Francisco, California) is an American author, of several autobiographical and self-help books. He is best known for his 1995 memoir of childhood abuse, A Child Called "It".

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Dave pelzer s biography


Biography

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Pelzer was born in San Francisco, California, and was the second of five boys. He grew up in the city of Daly City, California. He is the son of Stephen Joseph Pelzer (1923–1980), a San Francisco fireman, and Catherine Roerva Christen Pelzer (1929–1992). Pelzer's books describe the abuse he suffered as a small child for several years, including continual mistreatment and beatings by his mother, who he said thought of it as a game. His teachers stepped in on March 5, 1973, when 12-year-old Pelzer was placed in foster care. At age 18 he joined the U.S. Air Force in 1979 and served in the Gulf War. Pelzer married in the 1980s to his first wife, Patsy (a pseudonym), with whom he had a son. In 1996, he carried a torch in the 1996 Summer Olympics torch relay. Pelzer and Patsy divorced and many years later he married his second wife, Marsha, who was his editor.

Abuse

Dave Pelzer smiling while wearing a light gray polo shirt and eyeglasses

His book A Child called "It" describes from his viewpoint about the severe abuse he suffered as a child. He writes how his mother was physically and emotionally abusive towards him from ages 4 to 12. In his book he describes how his mom starved him, forced him to drink ammonia, stabbed him in the stomach, burned his arm on a gas stove, and forced him to eat his own vomit. He mentioned that his father was not active in resolving or stopping the conflicts between Pelzer and his alcoholic mother. In 1973 at age 12 he was sent to a foster family. In the book he uses pseudonyms to reference his relatives.

One of Dave's brothers, Richard B. Pelzer, published his own autobiography detailing his experiences as well called A Brother's Journey. Paraphrased, Pelzer said in the afterword of his book that his objectives for his story was to show how a parent can become abusive and how the human spirit can triumph and survive.

Books

Dave Pelzer speaking to Airmen while visiting troops in Southwest Asia while wearing eyeglasses and a blue polo shirt with a patch of logo

Pelzer's first book, A Child Called "It" was published in 1995 and describes the abuse Pelzer suffered in his childhood. His second book, The Lost Boy: A Foster Child's Search for the Love of a Family was published shortly after in 1997. The book covered Pelzer's teen years. The third book in his series, A Man Named Dave: A Story of Triumph and Forgiveness was about Pelzer's experiences as an adult and how he forgave his father. In 2001 he wrote Help Yourself: Finding Hope, Courage, And Happiness which was a self-help book. When discussing his seventh book Moving Forward he said, "My message has always been about resilience".

Reception of A Child Called It

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His first book, A Child Called It, was successful and garnered interest. It was listed on The New York Times Bestseller List for several years and in 5 years had sold at least 1.6 million copies. Pelzer was invited to television shows such as Montel Williams and The Oprah Winfrey Show to give interviews after the book was published.

Dave Pelzer with a tight-lipped smile while his hands are together and wearing eyeglasses, a white polo shirt, and a wristwatch

In a 2001 news article Orion UK Publishing's Trevor Dolby said, "We get 10 letters a day from people saying the first book mirrors their own childhood, which is very depressing." One reader was quoted: "(The book) made me see that I wasn't the only one out there...that had this...in their life. That there's people who do understand."

Dave Pelzer, in a news report with a head title "Victims face Criminals", looking seriously while wearing eyeglasses and yellow long sleeve under a black coat

Writer David Plotz criticized Pelzer in an article he wrote for Slate. In the article Plotz says that because Pelzer's parents are dead it is hard to question them.

Controversy

Young Dave Pelzer smiling while wearing a white and red checkered polo

The assertions in his memoirs have led to some skeptical commentary. In a 2002 New York Times article by Pat Jordan the author questioned the reliability of Pelzer's recollections. He said that "Pelzer has an exquisite recall of his abuse, but almost no recall of anything that would authenticate that abuse", such as any details about his mother. Two members of his family, his maternal grandmother and brother, have disputed his book. One of his younger brothers, Stephen, denies that any abuse took place, and says that he thinks David was placed in foster care because "he started a fire and was caught shoplifting". However, his other brother Richard Pelzer is author of the book A Brother's Journey, which confirms much of what David has said and describes his own abuse when David was finally removed from the home. In regard to this, Dave has said that Stephen had affection towards his mother and that "he misses her terribly because she protected him". Due to the criticism from the New York Times article Dave does not give interviews often.

On the left, Dave Pelzer with a tight-lipped smile while wearing eyeglasses and blue long sleeve under a red necktie and black coat. On the right, is a quotation from him saying, "Childhood should be carefree, playing in the sun; not living a nightmare in the darkness of the soul".

In an article in The Boston Globe Pelzer's grandmother said she believed Dave had been abused but not as severely as he described. She also said she didn't believe his brother Richard was abused. It was revealed, however, that Pelzer's grandmother did not live in the same state as his brothers and family and was not in contact with them when the abuse happened.

An article in The Guardian notes that gaps in the background narrative "makes the foreground harder to trust". The author writes, "My own hunch is that, substantially, he's telling the truth ... But there is a definite feeling of exaggeration in the later two books..." The author then states the same feeling Plotz also covered in his article, that she feels Pelzer is profiting from his abuse and minimizing the seriousness of the crime by making the writing "entertaining".

Current life

Pelzer spends his time giving lectures across the country. He is also a volunteer.

Work

  • A Child Called It (1995)
  • The Lost Boy: A Foster Child's Search for the Love of a Family (1997)
  • A Man Named Dave: A Story of Triumph and Forgiveness (2000)
  • Help Yourself (2001)
  • The Privilege of Youth (2004)
  • Help Yourself for Teens (2005)
  • Moving Forward (2009)
  • References

    Dave Pelzer Wikipedia