Here are 10 Suggestions
To Get Over A Breakup..
#10 Back Your Decision Confidently
This is very important after the breakup. If the breakup was your decision, keep in mind that only going back and re-thinking about all the good times you had with your partner may cause you to forget the reasons why you broke it off. Try not to second-guess the situation if the decision to end the relitionship was not yours.
#9 Cut Off All Contact
If you are in contact, you are still in love. You need time to heal and so do they. Maintaining a channel of communication will never allow those wounds to fully close. Block them from Facebook. Don’t hang out with them in group settings. Especially don’t show up unexpectedly to their house or work. Don’t randomly call just to “see how they’re doing.” No drunk texting, either. You can continue communication only when you’ve completely moved on and want to be friends with no ulterior motives.
#8 Cope With The Pain Appropriately
You need to come out of it. It’s alright to feel like you have messed up accepting blame for your mistakes or shortcomings is healthy. On the other hand, you must also accept that you are a good person, and that you truly did your best and you’re not the only one who made mistakes.
Excercise is very important for your health, and brain. Start exercising if you aren’t already. Exercise releases endorphins that boost your mood and help to overcome depression. Plus, improving your health and looking your best always makes you feel more confident. It’s almost impossible to not feel good after a swell workout, as long as you don’t push yourself too hard.
#6 Deal With The Hate Phase
Yes, this phase will come. This is the point when you want to just scream because your rage feels boundless. The amount of anger you feel depends on how antagonistic the split was, the circumstances surrounding it, and how long it took to make the final break. Although it can feel good to replace your feelings of love towards your ex with hate, this can lead to complications and mixed emotions of love and hate, which are never a good thing.
#5 Take Them Off The Pedestal
This is very important. When someone rejects us, we tend to overlook many of their negative qualities. We idealize them, and also idolize them, in a way. In truth, they were not perfect. They were human and had flaws, just like everyone else. No one else is safe from his or her own hubris.
#4 Talk To Friends and Family
Family and Friends are someone who will always support you no matter what. You want to be around people who love you and who will help you feel good about yourself. Surrounding yourself with compassionate, supportive friends and family will help you see yourself as a worthwhile person, and you’ll find it easier to get back on your feet again with your loved ones around you in a comforting net.
#3 Understand That You’re Not Worthless
Self confidence is must. You are no less of a human being than before simply because they left you. Your value is not based on whether or not one person wants to be with you. Your value is based on how you perceive YOURSELF. Some connections are temporary but they only pave the way for the ones that last.
#2 Find Happiness In Other Areas of Your Life
Your life is not only about your love, there are other so many things to it. Whether this entails spending time with your friends and family, signing up for that class you’ve always wanted to take, or reading every book on the New York Times bestseller list, you need to remind yourself that a relationship is one part of life, but even when you are in one, there are personal pleasures that you can always enjoy on your own. Indulge in those things now. As they say, the best revenge is living well.
#1 Give It Time
Time is the best medicine. Indeed true. This is the simplest advice anyone can give you, and perhaps the most useful advice anyone can give you. When you lose someone meaningful to you, you will not feel great overnight. Be patient and follow the above advice of investing in yourself, spending time with good company, and meeting new people. If you can do that, things will get better.